Kisah zaman Rasulullah: Antara Sabar & Mengeluh

Pada zaman dahulu ada seorang yang bernama Abul Hassan yang pergi haji di Baitul Haram. Diwaktu tawaf tiba-tiba ia melihat seorang wanita yang bersinar dan berseri wajahnya. “Demi Allah, belum pernah aku melihat wajah secantik dan secerah wanita itu,tidak lain kerana itu pasti kerana tidak pernah risau dan bersedih hati.” Tiba-tiba wanita itu mendengar ucapan Abul Hassan lalu ia bertanya, “Apakah katamu hai saudaraku ? Demi Allah aku tetap terbelenggu oleh perasaan dukacita dan luka hati kerana risau, dan seorang pun yang menyekutuinya aku dalam hal ini.” Abu Hassan bertanya, “Bagaimana hal yang merisaukanmu?” Wanita itu menjawab, “Pada suatu hari ketika suamiku sedang menyembelih kambing korban, dan pada aku mempunyai dua orang anak yang sudah boleh bermain dan yang satu masih menyusu, dan ketika aku bangun untuk membuat makanan, tiba-tiba anakku yang agak besar berkata pada adiknya, “Hai adikku, sukakah aku tunjukkan padamu bagaimana ayah menyembelih kambing ?” Jawab adiknya, “Baiklah kalau begitu ?” Lalu disuruh adiknya baring dan disembelihkannya leher adiknya itu. Kemudian dia merasa ketakutan setelah melihat darah memancut keluar dan lari ke bukit yang mana di sana ia dimakan oleh serigala, lalu ayahnya pergi mencari anaknya itu sehingga mati kehausan dan ketika aku letakkan bayiku untuk keluar mencari suamiku, tiba-tiba bayiku merangkak menuju ke periuk yang berisi air panas, ditariknya periuk tersebut dan tumpahlah air panas terkena ke badannya habis melecur kulit badannya. Berita ini terdengar kepada anakku yang telah berkahwin dan tinggal di daerah lain, maka ia jatuh pengsan hingga sampai menuju ajalnya. Dan kini aku tinggal sebatang kara di antara mereka semua.” Lalu Abul Hassan bertanya, “Bagaimanakah kesabaranmu menghadapi semua musibah yang sangat hebat itu ?” Wanita itu menjawab, “Tiada seorang pun yang dapat membezakan antara sabar dengan mengeluh melainkan ia menemukan di antara keduanya ada jalan yang berzeda. Adapun sabar dengan memperbaiki yang lahir, maka hal itu baik dan terpuji akibatnya. Dan adapun mengeluh, maka orangnya tidak mendapat ganti yakni sia-sia belaka.” Demikianlah cerita di atas, satu cerita yang dapat dijadikan tauladan di mana kesabaran sangat digalakkan oleh agama dan harus dimiliki oleh setiap orang yang mengaku beriman kepada Allah dalam setiap terkena musibah dan dugaan dari Allah. Kerana itu Rasulullah s.a.w bersabda dalam firman Allah dalam sebuah hadith Qudsi,: ” Tidak ada balasan bagi hamba-Ku yang Mukmin, jika Aku ambil kekasihnya dari ahli dunia kemudian ia sabar, melainkan syurga baginya.” Begitu juga mengeluh. Perbuatan ini sangat dikutuk oleh agama dan hukumnya haram. Kerana itu Rasulullah s.a.w bersabda,: ” Tiga macam daripada tanda kekafiran terhadap Allah, merobek baju, mengeluh dan menghina nasab orang.” Dan sabdanya pula, ” Mengeluh itu termasuk kebiasaan Jahiliyyah, dan orang yang mengeluh, jika ia mati sebelum taubat, maka Allah akan memotongnya bagi pakaian dari wap api neraka.” (Riwayat oleh Imam Majah) Semoga kita dijadikan sebagai hamba Tuhan yang sabar dalam menghadapi segala musibah..inshaAllah.
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Sabar itu indah...

Renungilah firman ALLAH Taala dalam surah Al-Ma'arij-5:
Ertinya: Maka bersabarlah kamu dengan sabar yang baik.

Ada ketikanya kamu tertanya-tanya di dalam hatimu,
apakah keindahan yang terdapat di dalam sifat sabar itu?
Ia adalah keindahan jiwa yang tenang dan reda kepada
ALLAH...yang meyakini bahawa ia tidak memiliki sedikitpun
kekuatan...kerana segala sesuatunya berada di tangan
ALLAH...DIA pemilik segala sesuatu dan selainnya adalah
milikNya. Makhluk tidak mampu menolak dengan apa yang
telah ditentukan ALLAH.Dengan itu hati menjadi sabar,
tenang tanpa berkeluh kesah,bersedih apatah lagi bersu-
sah hati.

Bersabar atas kejadian yang menimpa itu indah
Sabar bermanfaat bagi kaum yang ditimpa kepedihan
Sabar sebagai sandaran ketika ditimpa musibah
Bila kamu ditimpa kesusahan sepanjang waktu

Manusia yang sabar akan dipenuhi keperluannya
Dia menuju pintu kebahagian
Kebaikan ada dalam kesabaran
Kesabaran pasti membuahkan hasil pahala

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After a while...

aku masih di sini...

meneruskan sisa2 hidup, terus tabah & sabar....

SEDETIK LEBIH

Setiap nafas yang dihembus

Setiap degupan jantung

Aku selalu memikirkanmu

Dalam sedar dibuai angan

Dalam tidur dan khayalan

Aku selalu memikirkanmu

Ternyata ku perlukan cinta dari dirimu sayang

Barulah terasa ku bernyawa

Kasihku…ku amat mencintai kamu

Kerana kau beri erti hidup

Ku kan terus mencinta sedetik lebih selepas selamanya

Di kala penuh ketakutan dengan badai kehidupan

Ku bersyukur adanya kamu

Biarlah kehilangan semua yang dimiliki di dunia

Asal masih adanya kamu

Life is...

Always Be There - Maher Zain

Allahu Akbar [x8]

If you ask me about love
And what i know about it
My answer would be
It's everything about Allah
The pure love, to our souls
The creator of you and me
The heavens and the whole universe
The one that made us whole and free
The guardian of His true believers
So when the time gets hard
There's no way to turn
As He promised He will always be there
To bless us with His love and His mercy
Cuz as He promised He will always be there
He's always watching us, guiding us
And He knows what's in our little hearts
So when you lose your way
To Allah you should turn
Cuz as He promised He will always be there

He brings us out from the darkness into the light
Subhanallah capable of everything
Shouldn't never feel afraid of anything
As long as we follow His guidance all the way
Through our short time we have in this life
Soon it will all be over
And we'll be in His heaven and we'll all be fine
So when the time gets hard
There's no way to turn
As He promised He will always be there
To bless us with His love and His mercy
Cuz as He promised He will always be there
He's always watching us, guiding us
And He knows what's in our little hearts
So when you lose your way
To Allah you should turn
Cuz As He promised He will always be there

Allahu Akbar [x16]

So when the time gets hard
There's no way to turn
As He promised He will always be there
To bless us with His love and His mercy
Cuz as He promised He will always be there
He's always watching us, guiding us
And He knows what's in our little hearts
So when you lose your way
To Allah you should turn
Cuz As He promised He will always be there

Allahu Akbar [x12]

Sabar Menghadapi Ujian Hidup

Dan ada di antara manusia yang menyembah Allah dengan sikap dan pendirian yang tidak tetap, iaitu kalau ia beroleh kebaikan, senanglah hatinya dengan keadaan itu; dan kalau pula ia ditimpa fitnah kesusahan, berbaliklah ia semula (kepada kekufurannya). (Dengan sikapnya itu) rugilah ia akan dunia dan akhirat, itulah kerugian yang terang nyata. Ia menyeru dan menyembah makhluk-makhluk yang lain dari Allah, yang tidak dapat membahayakannya dan tidak dapat mendatangkan kebaikan kepadanya; itulah kesesatan yang jauh terpesong. Ia menyeru dan menyembah makhluk yang (dengan perbuatan demikian) mudaratnya lebih dekat dari manfaat yang diharapkannya; demi sesungguhnya seburuk-buruk penolong dan seburuk-buruk sahabat karib ialah makhluk yang diseru dan disembahnya itu. [Surah AlHajj :11-13]

Intisari ayat

Dalam ayat di atas, Allah S.W.T. menjelaskan bahawa orang yang tidak tetap imannya akan gembira apabila mendapat nikmat dan kebaikan. Sebaliknya akan murtad dan kafir apabila ditimpa bala bencana. Mereka sanggup menyembah selain Allah S.W.T. dengan harapan untuk melepaskan diri mereka daripada bala yang menimpa. Mereka akan mendapat kerugian di dunia dan di akhirat. Mereka termasuk dalam golongan yang sesat.

Huraian ayat

Allah S.W.T. menjadikan manusia dalam keadaan yang berbeza beza sama ada diberi kesenangan, kesusahan, kelemahan, kemiskinan, kelaparan dan sebagainya. Setiap yang diturunkan adalah untuk menguji keimanan seseorang hambaNya.

Tazkirah 2: Apabila Menghadapi Ujian Allah

Apabila kita diuji dengan kesakitan, Allah mahu memberitahu kita bahawa bagitulah susah dan menderitanya orang yang sedang sakit. Semoga kita menjadi orang yang bertimbang rasa; menziarahi dan membantu mereka yang menderita sakit. Orang yang sedang sakit, hatinya mudah terusik. Sesiapa saja yang datang dan memberi nasihat, InsyaAllah mudah
diterimanya. Bagaimana pula kalau kita diuji dengan kematian orang yang paling kita sayangi. Ujian ini sangaja didatangkan agar terasalah kita ini lemah; tiada kuasa untuk menolak etentuan Allah. Akan tertanamlah rasa kehambaan di dalam hati, sekaligus membuang rasa
bangga diri. Begitulah, sebenarnya Allah mahu kita sentiasa beringat-ingat. Agar dengan ujian itu, kita sebagai hamba akan datang untuk mengadu, mengharap, merintih belas ihsan, dan sentiasa merasakan hanya Allah tempat meminta segala-galanya. Ujian juga adalah untuk menilai sejauh mana keyakinan kita kepada Allah. Semakin diuji sepatutnya semakin bertambah iman kita, dan semakin hampir kita dengan Allah. Firman Allah dalam surah Al Imran; 142 yang bermaksud:

“Apakah kamu mengira bahawa kamu akan masuk syurga, pada hal belum nyata bagi Allah orang-orang yang berjihad di antara kamu dan belum nyata orang-orang yang bersabar.”

Firman Allah dalam Surah Az Zumar;10 yang maksudnya:

“Sesungguhnya diberi ganjaran orang sabar dengan pahala tanpa hisab.”

Allah takdirkan ujian demi ujian untuk memberi peluang kepada kita mendapatkan pahala sabar. Barangsiapa yang sabar dan redha tanpa mengeluh, merungut atau syurga. Oleh itu, apa salahnya Allah uji kita kerana hendak menyelamatkan kita di akhirat kelak! Berbeza pula halnya dengan ujian yang ditimpakan ke atas para Rasul, para nabi, wali-wali dan kekasih-kekasih Allah. Ujian ke atas mereka bermaksud untuk meninggikan darjat dan kedudukan mereka di sisi Allah. Sebab itu ujian yang mereka hadapi berat-berat belaka. Tatkala Rasulullah berdakwah ke Taif, masyarakat Taif bukan sahaja tidak menerima dakwah baginda, malah mencaci, menghina dan melempari baginda dengan batu dan najis. Para malaikat menawarkan diri untuk menghapuskan orang-orang yang berlaku durjana kepada baginda. Tetapi dengan tenang, baginda menjawab:

“Biarkan mereka, jangan diapa-apakan mereka kerana mereka tidak tahu, mereka masih jahil.”

Demikianlah, orang-orang yang tinggi taqwa dan keimananya; tidak mengeluh apabila diuji. Berbeza dengan golongan orang awam seperti kita ni, apabila diuji kita mudah jahat sangka dengan Allah dan berdendam dengan orang yang mendatangkan ujian kepada kita. Walhal bukan orang itu yang hendak menyusahkan kita, tetapi hakikatnya Allah. Allah yang hendak uji kita, menggunakan orang itu sebagai perantaraan. Jadi, tanyalah Allah kenapa kita diuji….

Tazkirah 1: Apabila Menghadapi Ujian Allah

Ujian adalah guru yang tidak bercakap, tetapi ia sangat mengajar dan mendidik. Ujian terkecil apalagi terbesar adalah takdir Allah. Yang mempunyai maksud tertantu. Kerana jahilnya kita, apabila ditimpa ujian samada secara langsung dari Allah atau melalui orang lain, kita mula elatah. Terasa Allah tidak adil, sengaja hendak menyusahkan kita. Atau kita menyalahkan orang yang mendatangkan ujian tersebut. Hati berdendam hati buruk sangka pada Allah yang mendatangkan ujian itu.

Allah Maha Pengasih; jauh sekali Allah takdirkan ujian hanya untuk menyusahkan hamba-Nya. Marilah kita sama-sama cungkil hikmah di sebalik ujian yang ditimpakan. Ujian sebenarnya melatih kita untuk mendapatkan sifat-sifat yang terpuji. Sabar, redha, tawakkal, baik sangka, mengakui diri sebagai hamba yang lemah, mendekatkan diri dengan Allah, harapkan ertolongan Allah, merasai dunia hanya nikmat sementara dan sebagainya. Berasa diri berdosa adalah juga sifat terpuji. Sebab itu bagi orang yang sudah banyak melakukan dosa atau
lalai daripada mengingati Allah, maka Allah datangkan ujian kesusahan kepadanya. Supaya hamba-Nya tadi tidak tenggelam dalam dosa dan noda. Kadangkala Allah dedahkan dosa yang dilakukan hingga ramai orang tahu. Bukan untuk menghinakan kita tetapi untuk memberi
ingatan supaya kita bertaubat. Dan tidak meneruskan perbuatan dosa itu sehingga bila-bila Ujian juga bermaksud qisas (pembalasan) ke atas dosa-dosa kita. Setiap perbuatan dosa mesti dihukum, samada di dunia atau di akhirat (kecuali kita telah bertaubat sungguh-sungguh sehingga Allah mengampunkan dosa itu).

Bagi orang yang Allah kasih, di dunia lagi Allah hukum, tidak di akhirat. Yakni dengan didatangkan kesusahan, penderitaan, kesakitan, kemiskinan, kehilangan pengaruh dan sebagainya. Sekiranya kita boleh bersabar dan redha, maka itulah ganjaran pahala untuk kita. Sebaliknya kalau kita tidak boleh bersabar dan tidak redha, malah merungut-rungut, mengeluh dan memberontak, hanya akan menambahkan lagi dosa kita. Begitulah Allah Yang Maha Pengasih kepada hamba-hambanya, tidak mahu hukum kita di akhirat, kerana penderitaan di Neraka berpuluh-puluh kali ganda lebih dahsyat daripada penderitaan di dunia. Sekiranya
kita telah dihukum di dunia lagi, kita patut bersyukur kerana apabila kembali ke akhirat, kita telah bersih daripada dosa. Adakalanya, kita ditimpakan kesempitan hidup. Sengaja Allah takdirkan demikian kerana Allah sayang pada kita. Allah hendak melatih kita menjadi orang yang bersabar dan redha dengan takdir-Nya. Mungkin kita akan sombong dan bakhil kalau dikurniakan harta melimpah ruah, maka Allah didik kita dengan kemiskinan.

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Pasrah lagi

Ujian dari Allah...........aku sabar
aku pasrah...
aku sentiasa berdoa, smoga Allah panjangkan usia, kurniakan kekuatan & kebahagiaan dlm hidupku hari2 akan datang...

Kebahagiaan seketika cuma..
smoga rahmat & hidayah yg lebih baik datang dr Allah selepas ini.

Sabarlah hati......

The Three Steps to Forgiveness

How many of us find our lives poisoned by the inability to forgive?
We know how difficult it is to cultivate inner peace without
forgiveness, and yet many of us find ourselves holding on to anger
and resentment instead.

This simple approach to forgiveness invites us to begin thinking
about the issue in a different way. Find out the three “A’s”
of forgiveness, and begin the process:

1. AWARENESS
What is denied cannot be forgiven.
Awareness of our inner world is as important as awareness of our outer world.
Our egos will fight our attempts to become more aware of our darker sides.
Watch thoughts without judgment–develop a “compassionate witness.”
The ability to watch thinking means we are not our thoughts.

2. ACCEPTANCE
What you resist persists.
Acceptance dissolves guilt.
Acceptance invites healing and change.
Change is feared and can block forgiveness.

3. ASKING FOR HELP
Awareness and acceptance are our responsibility.
A genuine desire for peace invites healing.
Our inner guide completes the forgiveness process and will choose the form forgiveness takes: our job is to surrender to its guidance.

Something has to die in order for us to begin to know our truths.
–Adrienne Rich

Adapted from The Findhorn Book of Forgiveness, by Michael Dawson (Findhorn Press, 2003).

Healthy Life: Eight reasons to drink coffee

According to research, the potential benefits of caffeine for maintenance of proper brain functioning has only recently begun to be appreciated. Proper brain functioning? Those of us who stumble blindly, mumbling unintelligibly, from bed to coffee pot first thing in the morning already appreciate the effect of caffeine on proper brain functioning -- but the benefits now seem to be further-reaching than the need to simply shake off the morning cobwebs.

In a study published in a special supplement to the Journal of Alzheimer’s Disease, researchers explored the potential benefits of caffeine and found substantial evidence that it may be protective against the cognitive decline seen in dementia and Alzheimer’s disease.

For the study (“Therapeutic Opportunities for Caffeine in Alzheimer’s Disease and Other Neurodegenerative Diseases”) a group of international experts looked into the effects of caffeine on the brain. The result was a collection of original studies exploring a number of topics ranging from molecular targets of caffeine, neurophysiological modifications and adaptations, to the potential mechanisms underlying the behavioral and protective actions of caffeine in distinct brain pathologies.

Here’s a brief summary of what they found:

1. Caffeine has a positive effect on cognition, memory performance, and the ability to complete complex tasks.

2. An inverse association between regular caffeine consumption and the incidence of Parkinson’s disease was found -- in other words, caffeine looks to be protective against Parkinson’s disease.

3 . The consumption of moderate amounts of caffeine was seen to decrease the cognitive decline associated with aging, as well as the incidence of Alzheimer’s disease.

4. Caffeine prevented motor deficits, normalized brain function, and prevented brain degeneration.

Other studies have shown:

5. Caffeine improves a sense of well-being, happiness, energy, alertness and sociability.

6. Caffeine enhances aerobic endurance.

7. Consumption of coffee can lead to a decreased risk of Type 2 diabetes.

8. Coffee has a whopping amount of antioxidants -- on average, Americans receive 1,299 milligrams of antioxidants from their 1.64 cups of daily coffee. The closest competitor was tea at 294 milligrams. Rounding out the top five sources were bananas, 76 milligrams; dry beans, 72 milligrams; and corn, 48 milligrams.

Concerns about coffee?
Some of the concerns about coffee include heart disease hypertension, cancer, and leaching of calcium. A New York Times’ article in 2008 debunked many of these myths and found this: An analysis of 10 studies of more than 400,000 people found no increase in heart disease among daily coffee drinkers, whether their coffee came with caffeine or not. A study of 155,000 nurses, women who drank coffee with or without caffeine for a decade were no more likely to develop hypertension than non-coffee drinkers. An international review of 66 studies last year, scientists found coffee drinking had little if any effect on the risk of developing pancreatic or kidney cancer. Coffee and tea drinkers who consume the currently recommended amount of calcium need not worry about caffeine’s effect on their bones. (And of course, if you have concerns about coffee, be sure to check with your doctor.)

How to Brew the Greatest Greenest Cup
Coffee enthusiasts swear by the press pot, aka the French Press, popularized in the United States by Bodum. Press pot brewing retains more of coffee’s flavor and essential oils that might otherwise be filtered out by a paper filter.

In terms of energy efficiency, the manual press pot requires only the energy to heat the water (an electric kettle is most efficient). Americans spend $400 million annually on electricity for their coffeemakers -- press pots, virtually nothing. For a detailed tutorial on how to brew the best press pot coffee, let the The Coffee Geek show you how.

When selecting your coffee, opt for Fair Trade, organic, or shade grown–coffees farmed with these farmer and planet-friendly systems are becoming increasingly available in the mainstream marketplace.

Healthy Living: Spice it up with turmeric

It is back to the future for ancient herbal remedies being re-examined by modern medicine for their legendary therapeutic properties. Turmeric is what imparts the characteristic vibrant yellow hue to curry and is an ancient spice highly prized as one of the most versatile of natural remedies.

This powerful antioxidant and anti-inflammatory has long been used in Chinese and Ayurvedic medicine to treat maladies ranging from digestive upsets to arthritis. Curcumin is the principal component in turmeric and has been the subject of numerous studies as a treatment for a broad range of maladies.

Cancer -- Curcumin has potent antioxidant properties shown to reduce swelling and inflammation and is explored for its benefits in the treatment and prevention of a number of cancers, including colon, prostate and breast cancer.¹ Researchers are studying curcuminoids because inflammation is implicated in cancer.

Arthritis -- Curcumin performs as well as traditional anti-inflammatory drugs for rheumatoid arthritis, osteoarthritis and post-operative inflammation; resulting in significant improvement while producing no side effects.²

Liver disease -- Turmeric has long been considered a natural liver detoxifier, and the latest research suggests curcumin may slow the progress of liver diseases. Researchers examined how a pinch of turmeric protected mice from inflammation in their bile channels from liver damage.³ These early stage findings indicate that liver damage; jaundice and scarring were all diminished by curcumin.

Alzheimer’s disease -- A growing body of evidence indicates that curcumin can play an essential role in the treatment of Alzheimer’s disease (AD). Studies suggest that active ingredients in turmeric boost the activity of the immune system in AD patients, which helps to clear the beta amyloid plaques, characteristic of this neurodegenerative disease.⁴

Coronary heart disease -- Curcumin, a potent antioxidant, has been shown to lower cholesterol, which builds up in plaques that damage blood vessels and can lead to heart attack or stroke.⁵ Turmeric is also a good source of vitamin B6, which is necessary for controlling high homocysteine levels in the blood, which pose a significant risk for blood vessel damage, plaque build-up and heart disease. A diet high in vitamin B6 is associated with a reduced risk of heart disease.

Diabetes -- Studies have shown that the antioxidant and anti-inflammatory properties of curcumin may be an effective treatment for type2 diabetes. Scientists investigating the effect of curcumin on diabetes found curcumin to be a potential glucose-lowering agent and antioxidant with merit for type2 diabetes.⁶

Cystic fibrosis -- Cystic fibrosis (CF) is a life-threatening genetic disease. Scientists are investigating the ability of curcumin to correct a mutation of a particular gene called CFTR and improve lung function in patients with Cystic Fibrosis.⁷ In a study at Yale University School of Medicine, curcumin was shown to correct cystic fibrosis defects and significantly cut deaths among mice with the disease.⁸ The discovery prompted the Cystic Fibrosis Foundation to fund further studies with patients.

Turmeric is related to ginger and often recommended to improve digestion. In India, women use turmeric paste to remove excess body hair and as a home remedy for sunburn. From heartburn to sunburn peptic ulcers and gallstones, the home remedies for turmeric over the ages are too numerous to mention.

While scientists continue to explore the amazing health benefits of this ancient remedy, include this golden spice in your diet to improve your health and perk up your palate.

10 Ways To Get Your Marriage on Track

First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes happily ever after. End of story, right? Not quite… While it’s true that couples relax a bit after they think they’ve nabbed the matrimonial Holy Grail, the reality is that they may also find themselves dumbfounded if their fairytale starts slipping away. “Many people think that marriage is about marrying the right person, so when things go wrong, they automatically go to the ‘Crap, I accidentally married the wrong person’ place,” says Alisa Bowman, author of Project: Happily Ever After. “Although you do want to marry someone you are basically compatible with, marriage has a lot less to do with marrying the right person than it has to do with doing the right things with the person you married.” In other words, relationships are a constant work in progress. To keep the happy connection that made you say “I do” in the first place—or maybe even create a newer-and-improved version—try out these 10 tips to rehab your romance.

1. Nurture yourself.
Marriage is about giving, but don’t make the mistake of giving too much. “To have a good marriage, you need to be a good you,” says Bowman. “Learn how to prioritize and put boundaries around activities that keep you healthy and whole—activities like rest, relaxation, fitness and time with friends.” In other words, remember that scheduling “me” time into your day is not selfish, it’s a necessity. It will strengthen your relationship because you’ll have a saner version of “you” to bring to the “us” equation.

2. Define your problems.
Spend some time looking at your relationship and figure out which parts work and which parts don’t. Bowman suggests that you take a moment to imagine a perfect day in your perfect relationship. What would this look like? How would you and your partner interact? Then create a plan of how you might get from point A (your current reality) to point B (that perfect day). Write it down if you need to, then start breaking the issues into bite-size pieces and tackling them one at a time. Before you know it, there will only be a few bite-size problems left.

3. Make a financial plan together.
Money is one of the biggest stressors in a marriage. Couples worry and argue about it constantly. If you find you and your spouse are starting to badger each other over the bottom line, it’s time to have a penny-pinching powwow. “We are all guilty of something economists call ‘passive decision-making,’ which just means defaulting to the easy option,” says Jenny Anderson, coauthor of Spousonomics: Using Economics to Master Love, Marriage, and Dirty Dishes. “Couples need to make an active plan about how they will manage their money: Combine it? Separate it? Create a joint account and keep some separate? Whatever the decision, both people have to be part of the decision to do it and then figure out what needs to be done to keep the system humming.”

4. Use the three-sentence rule.
When you need to ask your partner for something that could be misconstrued as nagging, keep the request at three sentences—max. “The art of being assertive without coming off as aggressive lies in being succinct and using a warm tone of voice and body language,” says Bowman. “When you keep your requests to three sentences or fewer, it’s almost impossible to blame, use sarcasm or use put-downs.” It’s also a lot more likely that you’ll get your point across without losing your spouse’s attention. Make your request with a smile. Be sincere and encouraging. You might even rest your hand on his thigh as you say, “Honey, the house is a mess and I am exhausted. Could you help me clean this place up? I could really use your help.”

5. Take your fighting gloves off.
Don’t duke it out. Instead, consider taking a time-out. “There's a concept called 'loss aversion' in economics, which simply means we really hate to lose. And when we think we are losing, we fight like there is no tomorrow to try to win,” says Anderson. “It happens when couples talk about hot-button issues like sex, housework, money or the kids. If either person thinks he or she is losing, he or she will ratchet up the stakes and escalate the issue.” The next time you see a spousal spat going to a not-so-happy place, take a break and revisit the subject when neither one of you feels overwhelmed by the topic.

6. Just do it.
Yes, by “do it” we mean have sex. Intimacy is an important part of a vital relationship, and one of the first areas to suffer if feelings are floundering. But sexual encounters can also be one of the quickest ways to reconnect and rekindle with your partner. “Of the many forms of couple intimacy—a smile across a room, a kiss, a touch—sex has the potential to be the most powerful positive physical experience most of us enjoy,” says Joel D. Block, PhD, coauthor of Sex Comes First: 15 Ways to Save Your Relationship…Without Leaving Your Bedroom. “This is especially true if sex results in emotional fulfillment, better communication, security and reassurance."

7. Burn your grudges.

It’s time to set some bad memories on fire. Literally. Sometimes hanging on to those “Do you remember the time you did such and such?” moments are the things that lead to relationship sabotage. Instead of carrying grudges around forever, torch them. “Write them all down on a piece of paper. Then set a timer for a certain amount of time. It might be 10 minutes. It might be 30. It might be the whole day. The point is: Give yourself as long as you need to really wallow in the misery of these grudges. Savor them. Get angry about them. Mutter about them. Do whatever you need to do to get sick and tired of them,” says Bowman. “Once you are done, say, ‘I will not think about these anymore. These grudges have lost their usefulness.’” Then take a match and burn them.

8. Don’t be overly confident.
Overconfidence can lead to complacency, which is not good for any relationship. According to Anderson, in a survey published in August 1993 in the journal Law and Human Behavior, couples who had recently applied for a marriage license were asked to estimate the average rate of divorce. Almost uniformly, they accurately predicted about 50 percent. Then they were asked to estimate the chances that they would get divorced. They answered zero percent. The problem with this statistic is that, if there is no perceived risk of failure, no “work” is put into maintaining the relationship—until it’s suddenly faltering. Don’t let yourself gloss over the little things. Don’t forget to make an effort to keep your romance alive. Don’t find yourself in a situation where you realize that you could have done more…when it’s already too late.

9. Write your spouse’s eulogy.
This one isn’t as macabre as it sounds. It’s more of an exercise in appreciation. Bowman suggests that you work on it a little at a time as a way to notice what your spouse does right (since these are the things you’d likely eulogize him with, not the negatives). “Think back over the years you’ve known this man. When did he make you laugh? When did he make you cry tears of joy? When did he surprise you? When did he feed the cat because the smell of cat food makes you want to hurl? Put it in the eulogy,” says Bowman. “The funeral fantasy will help you remember to appreciate your spouse.”

10. Remind yourself you have a choice to stay married.
Many people stay in troubled marriages because they believe they have no other choice. “They think that they are stuck, and they blame this sensation of being stuck on their spouse. But if you are stuck, it’s your fault and not your spouse’s,” says Bowman. That fact is, “you are not stuck; you have choices. Three of them: Do nothing and remain miserable; face your fears and try to save your marriage; ask for a divorce.” Choose to either be married or not. Make a choice. And wake up every morning and make that choice again. The surest path to happiness is knowing that you are not a helpless damsel in distress, but rather a woman who can make her own decisions. You have the choice to live happily ever after.

Original article appeared on WomansDay.com

STARTING NEW.................aftermath @ afterlife?

Meanings: [sources frm Oxford dictionary]

a) Afterlife: (in some religions) life after death
* hidup sesudah atau selepas mati

b) Aftermath: the consequences of an unpleasant event
* akibat; kesan selepas sesuatu berlaku

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rasanya perkataan "aftermath" sesuai digunakan...setelah beberapa lama tidak jd blogger, rasanya aku harus KEMBALI menulis... bukan utk orang lain, tetapi utk diri sendiri dan tatapan anak cucu di kemudian hari..inshaAllah [jika panjang umur..]

END OF LIFE story...

ini mungkin cerita yg terakhir..
setelah 4 (empat) tahun menulis blog (bermula 16 Jun 2006), dah tiba masanya utk berehat selamanya.
tiada lagi akan datang sebab... this blog will b TERMINATED soon.
kena hormat dgn arahan 'hubby' a.k.a abg wan (3 bulan menyulam cinta baru yg mengasyikkan, berlandaskan keimanan & kasih syg yg ikhlas. Semoga perancangan kami akan dirahmati & diredhai Allah SWT hendaknya. Terima kasih abang. "i want nobody, nobody.. but YOU!" our trademark..hehe).

Titik nokhtah bermula dgn terpadamnya segala kenangan lama... bermula lah episod BARU YANG INDAH dalam hidupku.. alhamdulillah..
harap semua orang paham & tiada komen lagi.

Selamat menulis, mohon maaf jika ada nama2 di dalam blog ini tercatat @ dipamerkan tanpa kebenaran. Penulisan saya berdasarkan dari hati dan pengalaman, mungkin ada perkara yg boleh dikongsi bersama. Yang baik datangnya dari ALLAH SWT dan yg buruk itu datangnya dari diri saya sendiri.

Selamat berbahagia & doakan kebahagiaan saya jugak...

Kisah JOHNNY

John Johnny Jonathan.. lagu yg slalu aku nyanyikan utk dia. tapi lepas ni hanya tinggal kenangan. Dia pergi membawa berpuluh kenangan (nk kira beratus tu blom lagi kot). Warnanya yg cantik, usianya aku tak pasti, kena tanya tuannya: Shazuli Azroel. walaupun Johnny hanya seekor ikan, tapi kami mmg syg la. Johnny meninggalkan kami pada selasa petang 16 mac 2010 [matinya kurang pasti, CSI team masih lagi buat siasatan, Sarjan pun tk dpt buat laporan, hanya koroner shj yg mengesahkan kematiannya]. kami membiarkan dia mati terapung 2 hari, dgn harapan tuannya akan dtg ambil buat sesuatu, tapi hampa. Utk tidak membiarkan 'rohnya' berkeliaran berhari2, tak ditanam & bau busuk maka hari ini jam 3.30 petang aku amik keputusan menanam Johnny. Cemetery yg kami pilih begitu indah & berhadapan dgn ofis UPPK. boleh la hari2, bila rindu, kami dtg ziarah.
Selamat tinggal Johnny... Rest In Peace [R.I.P]. We gonna miss u..
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Koroner: Atie
Sarjan: Wan
CSI Team: Yat & Eka

21 Guns

Do you know what's worth fighting for,
When it's not worth dying for?
Does it take your breath away
And you feel yourself suffocating?
Does the pain weigh out the pride?
And you look for a place to hide?
Did someone break your heart inside?
You're in ruins.

One, 21 guns
Lay down your arms
Give up the fight
One, 21 guns
Throw up your arms into the sky,
You and I

When you're at the end of the road
And you lost all sense of control
And your thoughts have taken their toll
When your mind breaks the spirit of your soul
Your faith walks on broken glass
And the hangover doesn't pass
Nothing's ever built to last
You're in ruins.

One, 21 guns
Lay down your arms
Give up the fight
One, 21 guns
Throw up your arms into the sky,
You and I

Did you try to live on your own
When you burned down the house and home?
Did you stand too close to the fire?
Like a liar looking for forgiveness from a stone

When it's time to live and let die
And you can't get another try
Something inside this heart has died
You're in ruins.

One, 21 guns
Lay down your arms
Give up the fight
One, 21 guns
Throw up your arms into the sky (x2)

You and I.

Two Is Better Than One

[ft. Taylor Swift]
I remember what you wore on the first day
You came into my life and I thought
"Hey, you know, this could be something"
'Cause everything you do and words you say
You know that it all takes my breath away
And now I'm left with nothing

So maybe it's true
That I can't live without you
And maybe two is better than one
But there's so much time
To figure out the rest of my life
And you've already got me coming undone
And I'm thinking two is better than one

I remember every look upon your face
The way you roll your eyes
The way you taste
You make it hard for breathing
'Cause when I close my eyes and drift away
I think of you and everything's okay
I'm finally now believing

That maybe it's true
That I can't live without you
And maybe two is better than one
But there's so much time
To figure out the rest of my life
And you've already got me coming undone
And I'm thinking two is better than one
I remember what you wore on the first day
You came into my life and I thought, "Hey,"

Maybe it's true
That I can't live without you
Maybe two is better than one
But there's so much time
To figure out the rest of my life
And you've already got me coming undone
And I'm thinking
I can't live without you
'Cause, baby, two is better than one
But there's so much time
To figure out the rest of my life
But I'll figure it out
When all is said and done
Two is better than one
Two is better than one

[song: boys likes girls]

CRAWL

Everybody see's it's you
I'm the one that lost the view
Everybody says we're through
I hope you haven't said it too

So where
Do we go from here
With all this fear in our eyes
And where
Can love take us now
We've been so far down
We can still touch the sky

[Chorus]
If we crawl
Till we can walk again
Then we'll run
Until we're strong enough to jump
Then we'll fly
Until there is no end
So lets crawl, crawl, crawl
Back to love, Yeah
Back to love, Yeah

[Verse 2]
Why did I change the pace
Hearts were never meant to race
I always felt the need for space
But now I can't reach your face
So where
Are you standing now
Are you in the crowd of my faults
Love, can you see my hand?
I need one more chance
We can still have it all

[Chorus]
If we crawl(if we crawl)
Till we can walk again
Then we'll run (then we'll run)
Until we're strong enough to jump
Then we'll fly
Until there is no end
So lets crawl, crawl, crawl
Back to love, Yeah
Back to love, yeaaah

[Bridge]
Everybody see's it's you
Well I never wanna lose that view

So let's crawl, let's crawl, lets crawl
Back to love
Back to love yeah
Back to love

[Song: Chris Brown]

Hening Malam...hatiku tenang

Nearly 2 nites i can't sleep. don't knw y. nak kata aku rindu kt isam, dating dh tadi. hurm... byk sgt yg aku pikirkan agaknya.. especially tringatkan my lovely parents @ hometown. nothin' to hide, nothin' to lose... nothin' to afraid of, i'm gonna go through it.. just keep the faith.

wat kinda story tonite? last CNY holidays, back hometown. Meet parents n naughty nephews - bought them story books. At least daddy could eat somethin tengok anak2nya balik. it was so greatful when saw kaki dad semakin baik sedikit rather than first day i saw his feet, damn terrible! isam pun tk sanggup tgk pic kaki dad..huhu. ada jgk usaha sana sini like i went to sumwhere in Benut or Batu Pahat, [lupa plak..] dgn adik cari ubat cuci n minyak utk pesakit luka teruk. hampa..sbb ubat2 tu anak arwah org yg pandai buat ubat tu tk teruskan. Luckily ada geng kt clinic dialysis yg sudi beri sket utk dad. usaha lain, jmpa ustaz.. mr nice guy, young age 37. i'm not dat kind of people yg sgt percaya, but i still smell something fishy, cuma ada jgk gertak berhemah..hehe.. dgn dia. Nway, kita cuba berusaha, Allah yg menentukan segala2nya. Sempat plak mak ngah ask me utk permudahkan jodoh me.. [sounds kelakar, but.. ikut je la]. ustaz tu pandai jgk menilik, but not all true. ada jgk terbabas.. i jst smile n asking here n there. biasala.. dgn slamber n keceluparan aku ni. Balik jmpa ustaz tu kena mandi la pulak dgn air jampi dia, smpai la ni.. aku minum jgk. nk kata trpaksa, ada la 20%. lain2 tu, aku serah pd Allah atas keikhlasan org utk mbantu, yea dak? wateverla... as long as mak ngah n my mom happy.

nmpaknya lately ni, ada byk perubahan dgn kekasihku itu...hehe. Sangat bagus! i must keep on threaten on him! bknnya apa, kasi ajar sket. at least i knew dat he really love n appreaciate me, even bukan secara terang2 tapi bersuluh. biasala.. chenta org tua ni, not slapstik or plastik but truly from heart n yg penting - IKHLAS. bersungguh isam nk hantar aku masa balik ke JB last thursday, sanggup tunggu 15 min b4 5pm kt parking ofis. kelam kabut jgk aku settlekan keje n trpaksa bwk laptop nk siapkan slide presentation for meeting esok di skudai. and.. isam masih menunggu dgn sabar.. Surprisely, when i enter his car, dia cepat2 ke booth keta then gave me sweet red rose, n wish me 'this is for u dear, early happy valentine's day'. hurmm.. aku bknnya clbrate valentine's but ok la.. senyum trsengih2 mcm kera dpt bunga la aku.. wpun masa yg sangat singkat, he promised dat to meet me again after CNY holiday. Kt puduraya, sementara tunggu bas @ 7pm, sempat surf n on fb n belek lagi rose tu. mcm tk prcaya.. all these while, selama hampir 2 thn lebih.. dia bg aku bunga? sengih lagi..hehe. smpai penyek bunga tu aku bubuh dlm beg laptop angkut sana sini. As he promised me, we all kuar dating last nite. Shavy n hemsem as usual, he drive me to Coffee Bean Ampang, tmpt biasa kami lepak or tapau. Agak tegang jgk bila mana our order lambat smpai, smpai tersengih2 mamat mat salleh sblah kitaorg dgr isam komplen. dia nyer baran..hurmm..tk bleh angkat la. i just giving him honey stick, n buat lawak bodoh, baru dia gelak. Then we went to Shell Station sumwhere near Hang Tuah Monorel & Flat Samping, pick up his fren - omar. Almost 2 hours jgk la abiskan masa dgn dia. As usual, i like his ideas, opinion & advices about islam n everythings. Communication between us, great. We can share experiences n everythings esp family matters. Sikap keterbukaan, understanding n trust - makes our relationship better day by day. I love him n yes he loved me too. Masih lg berusaha, keep da faith. Kalau ada jodohnya.. tak ke mana. Our lovely special tags "togetherness we strive, happiness will b forever". Marah-marah sayang....

Perasaan ini setenang air di tasik kenyir.. ada kalanya berkocak bila diganggu.. sabarlah hati..
"lets us crawl... crawl.. back to love: part of lyric song by chris brown"

SECRETS

I need another story
Something to get off my chest
My life gets kind of boring
Need something that i can confess

Till all my sleaves are stained red
From all the truth that I've said
Come by it honestly I swear
Thought you saw me wink, no, I've been on the brink, so

[CHORUS]
Tell me what you want to hear
Something that'll like those ears
Sick of all the act sencere
So I'm gonna give all my secrets away
This time
Don't need another perfect lie
Don't care if critics never jump in line
I'm Gonna give all my secrets away

My God, amazing how we got this far
It's like were chacing all those stars
Whoes driver shining big black cars

And everyday I see the news
All the problems we could solve
And when a situation rises
We'll ride it into a moutain
Straight to though
I don't really like my flow, oh, so

Got no reason
Got no shame
Got no family
I can blame
Just don't let me dissappier
I'm gonna tell you everything

All my secrets away (x2)

[new song by One Republic]

Part of The List

Style of your hair,
shape of your eyes and your nose,
the way you stare
As if you see, right through to my soul,

It's your left hand and the way
that it's not quite as big as your right,
the way you stand in the mirror
before we go out at night,

Our quiet time,
your beautiful mind,

They're a part of the list.
Things that I miss.
Things like your funny little laugh,
the way you smile or the way we kiss.

What I noticed is this:
I come up with
something new, every single time
that I sit and reminisce.

The way you sweet smell
lingers when you leave a room,
(you leave a room)
Stories you tell as we lay
in bed all afternoon.
(all afternoon)

I dreamed you now every night
in my mind is where we meet.
(my mind is where we meet)
and when I'm awake
staring at pictures of you asleep.

Touching your face,
invading you space.

They're a part of the list.
Things that I miss.
Things like your funny little laugh,
the way you smile or the way we kiss.

Oooh, and you'll live in my memories forever more I swear.
And you'll live in my memories forever more I swear.

They're a part of the list.
Things that I miss.
Things like your funny little laugh,
the way you smile, or the way we kiss.

What I noticed is this:
I come up with
something new, every single time
that I sit and reminisce.

[song: Ne-Yo]

I Want To Know What Love Is

I gotta take a little time
A little time to think things over
I better read between the lines
In case I need it when Im colder

In my life there's been heartache and pain
I don't know if I can face it again
Cant stop now, Ive traveled so far
To change this lonely life

I wanna know what love is.....
I want you to show me......
I wanna feel what love is.....
I know you can show me......

I'm gonna take a little time
A little time to look around me....
Ive got nowhere left to hide
It looks like love has finally found me....

In my life! there's been heartache and pain
I don't know if I can face it again
I cant stop now, Ive traveled so far
To change this lonely life!.!.!.!.

I wanna know what love is.....
I want you to show me......
I wanna feel what love is......
I know you can show me......

I wanna know what love is....
I want you to show me....
And I wanna feel, I want to.... feel what love is....
And I know, I know you can show me....

[Mariah Carey]

Falling For You

I don’t know but
I think I maybe
Fallin’ for you
Dropping so quickly
Maybe I should
Keep this to myself
Waiting ’til I
Know you better

I am trying
Not to tell you
But I want to
I’m scared of what you’ll say
So I’m hiding what I’m feeling
But I’m tired of
Holding this inside my head

I’ve been spending all my time
Just thinking about ya
I don’t know what to do
I think I’m fallin’ for you
I’ve been waiting all my life
and now I found ya
I don’t know what to do
I think I’m fallin’ for you
I’m fallin’ for you

As I’m standing here
And you hold my hand
Pull me towards you
And we start to dance
All around us
I see nobody
Here in silence
It’s just you and me

Oh I just can’t take it
My heart is racing
The emotions keep spinning out
I’m fallin’ for you

I can’t stop thinking about it
I want you all around me
And now I just can’t hide it
I think I’m fallin’ for you (x2)

I’m fallin’ for you

Ooohhh
Oh no no
Oooooohhh
Oh I’m fallin’ for you

[song by Colbie]

Belaian Jiwa

kau tahu betapa ku sayang padamu, hanya bidadari sebagai ganti.. Hanya takdir menentukan ia.. oh belaian jiwa..
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my favorite song forever. tiba2 hari ni nk dengar versi Inuendo, mendayu2... meruntun hati, peh! jiwang la pulak. Especially during Februari, smua org tau ada Hari Kekasih @ Valentine's Day. But sorry to say, sebagai seorg muslim aku tidak pernah meraikan 14 Februari tu sebagai hari kekasih. For me, EVERYDAY was a special day for lovers.. setiap hari sayang.
adatla bila bercinta, kadang2 rasa tak puas hati, menyampah. Mengenang kekasih hatiku yg sgt sibuk, langsung takde masa nk sms @ not even answer my calls, mmg hampeh la. [marah tahap babun]. aku bukannya mintak hari2 dia call or sms, but at least 2 @ 3 hari ada berita. dulu bukan main, kalau aku tk sms @ call, mengamuk mcm org gila marahkan aku. biar dia senyap, tapi aku mesti hantar berita. la ni aku malas, mcm sms dgn org bisu & buta. kalau aku senang, aku sms. kalau tak, senyap je la seminggu ke.. sebulan, suka ati aku la. skrg ni cuma tinggal 45% perasaan sayang & 55% kesian kat dia. setelah hampir sebulan lebih, aku tk tau kabar berita, semlm dia baru sms tanya kabar n cuti panjang nk pegi mana? hangin satu badan aku. mana taknya.. ada terdetik dlm hati nk call balai polis sblum ni, kot2 dia kat lokap ke, skrg kan byk kes foreigner kena tangkap pasal dadah & syahbu. hurmm..malas nk layan. mmg dia kena maki je la masa aku reply sms. but as usual, he's cool, sabar & tau aku mmg tkde mood nk layan dia sbb dia tau dia salah. mcm biasa alasan sibuk la, business kurang & dia byk buat keje part time sana sini. mak dia pun tk balik2, ada kt sini lagi. malas aku nk dgr alasan dia. aku kasi chance until after chinese new year, kalau perangai tk berubah, mmg aku angkat kaki la. ntah apa lagi dia nak, aku pun tak tau. hmm..aku ni punya la baik.. (masuk bakul angkat sendiri..hehe) setia & sayang dia sorang (kuar dgn org lain dinner @ lunch tu biasa la, sbb bosan), kesian pun ada sbb aku tau.. kalau aku tinggalkan dia, nnti dia tk jmpa lagi gf yg macam aku ni - understanding, setia, tak cerewet, tak kisah apa dia buat, tak cemburu, dengar kata & nasihat dia, tau apa yg dia suka makan & jaga hati. Malas la nk over acting, asal kami bahagia & paham keadaan masing2 sudahla. Nak komplen lebih2 pun bukannya dia suami aku pun, buang masa je cemburu buta atau pikir bukan2. lantak dia la.. i knew he's survivor, hampir 13 tahun kt M'sia asam garam kehidupan yg dia alami mesti banyak. so.. aku kena sabar lah.. serah pada ALLAH, smoga tetapkan iman, kuatkan hati & kasih sayang kami. Kalau takde jodoh, nak wat camna.. takdir, kena redha. yg penting skrg ni, we must njoy our sweet time together.. sejak hampir 2 tahun dulu aku kenali dirinya dan sehingga hari ini, kasih sayang aku hanya utk isam sorang..

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i close my eyes and count to ten
pretending all this to be a dream
hoping your face would disappear
I open them and then I shut them again;

i have learned to live
with the silence in my life
and all the days seemed the same
until you came in and shattered it all;

flying around in circles
waiting, as my heart fluttered wildy
a sensation inexpressible
slowly engulfed my mind, body and soul;

i looked inside my heart
i looked inside my soul
it’s all too good to be true
finally as i cast my heart
overboard deep into this ocean of love,
could this be it?

[sources: http://www.poetryoflife.com/]

Cari Jodoh

Apa salahku apa salah ibuku
Hidupku dirundung pilu
Tak ada yang mau dan menginginkan aku
Tuk jadi pengobat pilu
Tuk jadi penawar rindu
Tuk jadi kekasih hatiku

*
Timur ke barat selatan ke utara
Tak juga aku berjumpa
Dari musim duren hingga musim rambutan
Tak kunjung aku dapatkan
Tak jua aku temukan
Oh tuhan inikah cobaan

**
Ibu-ibu bapak-bapak
Siapa yang punya anak
Bilang aku aku yang tengah malu
Sama teman-temanku
Karna cuma diriku yang tak laku-laku

***
Pengumuman-pengumuman
Siapa yang mau bantu
Tolong aku kasihani aku
Tolong carikan diriku kekasih hatiku
Siapa yang mau

Back to *, **, ***

Ibu bapak punya anak
Bilang-bilang aku aku yang tengah malu
Sama teman-temanku
Karna cuma diriku yang tak laku-laku

Back to ***

Single Ladies [Put a Ring on it]

All the single ladies (7x)

Now put your hands up
Up in the club, we just broke up
I’m doing my own little thing
you Decided to dip but now you wanna trip
Cuz another brother noticed me
I’m up on him, he up on me
dont pay him any attention
cuz i cried my tears, GAVE three good years
Ya can’t be mad at me

[Chorus]
Cuz if you liked it then you should have put a ring on it
If you liked it then you shoulda put a ring on it
Don’t be mad once you see that he want it
If you liked it then you shoulda put a ring on it

wo oh ooh oh oh ooh oh oh ooh oh oh oh x2


(Chorus)Cuz if you liked it then you should have put a ring on it
If you liked it then you shoulda put a ring on it
Don’t be mad once you see that he want it
If you liked it then you shoulda put a ring on it


I got gloss on my lips, a man on my hips
hold me tighter than my Dereon jeans
acting up, drink in my cup
I couldnt care less what you think
I need no permission, did I mention
Dont pay him any attention
Cuz you had your turn
But now you gonna learn
What it really feels like to miss me

(Chorus)

Cuz if you liked it then you should have put a ring on it
If you liked it then you shoulda put a ring on it
Don’t be mad once you see that he want it
If you liked it then you shoulda put a ring on it

woo oh ooh oh oh ooh oh oh ooh oh oh oh 2x

Don’t treat me to the things of this world
I’m not that kind of girl
Your love is what I prefer, what I deserve
Is a man that makes me, then takes me
And delivers me to a destiny, to infinity and beyond
Pull me into your arms
Say I’m the one you WANT
If you don’t, you’ll be alone
And like a ghost I’ll be gone

All the single ladies (7x)
Now put your hands up
woo oh ooh oh oh ooh oh oh ooh
oh oh oh 2x

Cuz if you liked it then you should have put a ring on it
If you liked it then you shoulda put a ring on it
Don’t be mad once you see that he want it
If you liked it then you shoulda put a ring on it woo oh ooh 2x

[BEYONCE]

Movies nite @ KLCC

lama dah kami smua (hsemate) tak kuar sama2 tgk wayang, rasanya ini la masa yg sesway. Surf net @ TGV online, ada few film yg best. kitaorg mula2 decide nk tgk Tooth Fairy, tapi akhirnya pilih Adnan Semp-IT. mmg jarangla nk tengok film melayu ni, tapi apa salahnya kita tgk kan. tak sangka pulak...mmg best giler la filem ni. Aku ketawa terkekeh2 dari mula smpai la keluar panggung..hehe. Release tension la jugak babe...

Sementara menunggu jam 11.30mlm, sempat kami snap pictures melepak @ TGV KLCC:

Apa ada dgn ADNAN SEMP-IT?

new comedy movie new year 2010. mmg superb!! jalan cerita yg mmg menarik, lebih byk pasal mat rempit la. kepada smua mat rempit di malaysia, jgn terasa pulak. dah memang kehidupan sebenar pun mcm gitu. Cuma tak smua mat rempit jahat, diaorg pun baik jugak.. ada hati dan perasaan. nak kata otaknya sempit...tak jugak. Kisah Adnan sbg opis boy @ peon dalam sebuah syarikat diketuai oleh lady bos - Nadia. P.A lady bos - wawa pun comel. ditambah dgn macha (cat farish) n few raja lawak mmbrs esp. along..hurmmm.. mmg lawak bangang lah!

At first, aku mcm tk yakin je filem ni bakal menggelikan buah pinggang aku. but seriously, mmg best giler! aku ketawa bagai nak rak smpai luar panggung. Aku syorkan smua kawan2 yg tengah tensen ni, baik pi tgk filem ni.

RATES: 4 bintang utk Ahmad Idham, salute bro!!! mmg best!

Sepetang di Gold Coast..

Bunyi macam kt Australia je kan? hehe... Bukannya aku pi bercuti ke sana la, kt M'sia pun ada Gold Coast jugak. Korang tau tak kat mana? Sepang je... 1 jam drive dari KL.

Awal pagi cuti Hari Wilayah, keboringan melanda. Even letih semalam jalan2 dgn nana, mirul & fahim @ The Curve tak hilang lagi, tapi aku malas nk kemas bilik. Lantakla...bersepah!! mmg bilik org bujang..huhu. Ajak k.sue pi umah mak itam @ Gold Coast best jgk ni.. Since ystrday dia pun ada mentioned ajak BBQ or berkelah. Terus call mak itam, dia pun stuju. i thought dia dh ada kat sana, rupa2nya depa smua tk jadi pegi mlm sblum tu. Aku terus pi pasar, beli ayam n ikan. Marinade ala kadar, then masak nasi goreng kampung. Tepat jam 12 tghri mak itam dtg umah then kitaorg gerak sama2 konvoi. Sempat singgah tengah jalan beli lokan 5 kilo n dragon fruit. kata mak itam, bakar pun sedap lokan tu.. Rasanya? nyaman... mcm oyster seh!!

Sesampainya di Bagan Lalang, terus prepared for BBQ. Cuaca agak panas terik jugak, n air pun blom pasang di Gold Coast, so.. kitaorg lepak kt umah tgk 'FAME' yg sempat aku download dgn azroel last friday. Start bakar api je, pak itam pun smpai dari Cheras. Katanya sejam je naik motor.. mmg rempit btul la pak itam aku ni..hehehe. Sempat blajar buat cicah asam Parit Buntar dgn mak itam. Sedap... kalo korang tak caya, nnti aku try buat..korang makan eh!! Penat mengipas (tak la sangat..) soru la.. apa lagi!!!! Ikan, ayam, lokan, udang & ikan pais (ala2 pedas gitu..). Then me, k.sue n cousins pi lepak kt Gold Coast. Watching sunset, hati ini tenang sedikit. Berjalan di tepian pantai...dengar ombak..hmmm....suasananya..mmg indah. orang tk brapa ramai, maybe sbb KL je yg cuti kot. nearly maghrib kami balik ke umah. Lepas mandi n siap2 packing n tlg bersihkan umah, kami pulang smula ke KL. Walaupun sekejap, tapi... hati ini lebih senang n rilex.. itu la, mmg btul kata orang.. bila kita lihat laut, hati kita akan tenang n kembali ceria semula.

These r few pictures yg sempat aku shoot kt Gold Coast, Bagan Lalang: